After exhaustively compiling a list of the 237 reasons
why people have sex, researchers found that young men and women get
intimate for mostly the same motivations.
It is more about lust in the body than a love connection in the heart.
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college-aged men and women agree on their top reasons for having sex:
they were attracted to the person, they wanted to experience physical
pleasure and “it feels good,” according to a peer-reviewed study in the
August edition of Archives of Sexual Behavior. Twenty of the top 25
reasons given for having sex were the same for men and women.
Expressing
love and showing affection were in the top 10 for both men and women,
but they did take a back seat to the clear No. 1: ''I was attracted to
the person.''
Researchers at the
University of Texas spent five years and their own money to study the
overlooked ''why'' behind sex while others were spending their time on
the ''how.''
''It's refuted a lot of gender stereotypes ... that men
only want sex for the physical pleasure and women want love,'' said
University of Texas clinical psychology professor Cindy Meston, the
study's co-author. ''That's not what I came up with in my findings.''
''The
more we look, the more we find similarity,'' said Dr Irwin Goldstein,
director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego.
Goldstein, who was not part of Meston's study, said the Texas research
made a lot of sense and adds to growing evidence that the vaunted
differences in the genders may only be among people with sexual
problems.
Meston and colleague
David Buss first questioned 444 men and women–ranging in age from 17 to
52–to come up with a list of 237 distinct reasons people have sex.
Men don’t need a reason
They
ranged from ''It's fun'' which men ranked fourth and women ranked
eighth to ''I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted
disease'' which ranked on the bottom by women.
Once they came up with that long list, Meston and Buss
asked 1,549 college students taking psychology classes to rank the
reasons on a one-to-five scale on how they applied to their experiences.
''None
of the gender differences are all that great,'' Meston said. ''Men were
more likely to be opportunistic towards having sex, so if sex were
there and available they would jump on it, somewhat more so than women.
Women were more likely to have sex because they felt they needed to
please their partner.''
But this
is among college students, when Meston conceded ''hormones run
rampant.'' She predicted huge differences when older groups of people
are studied.
Since her study came
out Tuesday, people are coming up with new reasons to have sex.
''Originally, I thought that we exhaustively compiled the list, but now
I found that there should be some added,'' Meston said.